I have a problem that I haven't heard from other parents. My almost 3 1/2 year old son is too sweet. He's gentle and kind and says "Please, Thank You, Bless You, Excuse me, You're Welcome and I'm Sorry" more often than he should. He's so kind that occasionally when he argues with a friend over a toy or yells at someone for pushing, I quietly cheer. Truthfully he's a heavy, thick kid and could probably easily take any of his friends and while clearly I'm glad he doesn't think that way, I'd like him to know that he has the power to stop an argument by using his words and walking away while saying "NO!"
Now I can see how parents with kids who wouldn't even think to say those things, wouldn't think this was a problem but it is. I worry for my son and would like him to be a little tougher. He shouldn't say, "Oh, I'm sorry" over and over when he wets his pants like he's in trouble. We don't get mad and he isn't in trouble when he does it so I don't get why he seems to be so upset about it. He shouldn't yell out, "I'm sorry" when someone else drops something and he shouldn't say "Excuse Me" when someone else sneezes. It's almost like he's taking everyone else's burden and I don't like it.
I know where he gets it and it ain't from me. It comes from a good place but sometimes "nice" is just a four letter word and I want Owen to understand when apologizing is necessary and when it isn't. I don't want someone bumping into him and him being the one who apologises while the other person just walks away. I HATE THAT!
So I love my baby and think he's super sweet, he just needs to understand that not everything is his fault and sometimes other people need to apologize. I'm just not sure how to make that happen. How do you teach a kid to say "Bless You and Thanks Mom" while making them understand that you don't yell "Oh, I'm sorry" when someone else shuts a door too hard?
For some reason I still can't get her button to work, but this is her blog: